Education Q&A – October 2024

CPI’s behaviour experts discuss how to remain calm and in control when students become physically aggressive with each other.

5 October 2024
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How do I remain in control when students are being physically aggressive towards one another? (David, Assistant Headteacher) 

Dealing with physical aggression between students can be challenging and stressful.  

However, maintaining control in such situations is crucial for the safety and well-being of everyone involved.  

Here are some strategies to help you stay in control when students are being physically aggressive towards one another. 

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Strategies for Maintaining Control During Student Conflict 

Remain Calm and Communicate Self-Control 

  • Stay Composed: Your demeanor can significantly influence the situation. By remaining calm, you communicate self-control and set a positive example. 
  • Deep Breathing: Take deep, slow breaths to manage your stress and maintain a clear mind. This can help you stay focused and composed. 
  • Observe and Reflect: Take a moment to observe the situation objectively. Distinguish between what is actually happening and what you perceive to be happening. 

Use Assertive Language 

  • Be Direct and Simple: Use short, clear, and directive language to address the students. 
  • Stay Firm: Maintain an assertive tone. Firmness can convey stability. 

Provide Stability in Crisis 

  • Understand Their State: Recognise that young people in crisis may not be thinking rationally and may struggle to regulate their thoughts, emotions, and behaviours. 
  • Offer Stability: Create a stable environment to help them regain control. This might include a calm presence and clear, consistent instructions. 

Choose Your Words Wisely 

  • Speak Calmly: Use a calm, measured tone to avoid adding stress to an already volatile situation. 

Call for Help if Needed 

  • Know When to Ask for Support: If the situation escalates beyond your control, do not hesitate to call for assistance from other staff members or school security. 
  • Work as a Team: Collaborate with colleagues to manage the situation safely and effectively. 

By incorporating these strategies, you can better manage physical aggression among students and maintain a safe, controlled environment.  

Remember, your calm and measured response is crucial in de-escalating the situation and ensuring the well-being of all students involved. 

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